May First

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Today the barista at my favorite coffee shop remembered my name, I killed my Modernist Poetry final exam, and the student center played the entire Tarzan soundtrack, so really I couldn’t have started out my May any better.

Here are some pieces of the world to hopefully help you start your month on the right foot

  • Vinny Mallozzi used to write about sports, now he’s covered over 6000 weddings for the New York Times, in this video he talks about how they aren’t as different as they appear – how they’re two of the equalizers in our society.
  • 25 years after the LA riots – a look at the humanity of Rodney King.
“It is difficult to tell ‘where your anxiety disorder ends and where actual news begins.’ “

“And these women, particularly young women, realize they are the ones who are going to have to stop this. And they are rolling up their sleeves and saying, ‘Put me to work.’ “


If you thought last week’s link about #Vanlife was interesting, here’s an in-depth look at the moms making seven figures portraying ‘attainable perfection’ on social media.


 

“I don’t know
when I got so punk rock
but when I catch
myself in the mirror I
feel stronger”
– Poet Morgan Parker,
who “describes her domestic aesthetic as ‘a little bit about avoiding the quiet.’ ”
Instagram Artist: Atelier Jean-Charles Millepied

NOWNESS has a calming Youtube series on the living spaces creatives make for themselves, here are three of my favorites:

  1. Devendra Banhart
  2. Adwoa Aboah
  3. Florence Welch

Let me know how your May started 🙂

Happy Monday Lovelies,
Mo

April 24 – DAY NINE OF MY BLACK EYE

National Parks 2050: Yellowstone

HAPPY WEEK – AFTER – EARTH DAY!

Hannah Rothstein’s new project, National Parks 2050, illustrates what the National Parks will look like if we continue to allow the effects of climate change. Also, 1100 desert tortoises were airlifted by the marines and Szenja the polar bear died after Sea World separated her from her polar bear partner of twenty years, Snowflake.

“And we were the land’s because we were eating and the land let some of us eat. And we were the ground because we eat and the ground let some among us eat. And yet the land was never some of ours. But the ground was never sure with us. Is never some of ours. Be never certain with us. Never will be rightly some of ours. Be correctly never certain with us. Never to be owned. Never to be had. And the land’s green is the land’s owning of us. And the green of the ground is the possession of the ground of us.” – Juliana Spahr, “Some of We And The Land That Was Never Ours”
WOMEN ARE EVERYTHING
CHANGING TIMES, TOP FIVE
  1. The ‘retail apocalpyse’ and how it shows which workers matter in Trump’s America
  2. Changing with the times so you don’t get left behind in Janesville, Wisconsin.
  3. “Like staycations and minimalism, vanlife is an attempt to aestheticize and romanticize the precariousness of contemporary life.”
  4. Aaron Wojack’s powerful portraits of people at the protests that have marked 2017 so far.
  5. How, and why, humans decided it was important to be happy.

El Hombre
by William Carlos Williams

It’s a strange courage
you give me ancient star:

shine alone in the sunrise
toward which you lend no part!

Shine on, lovelies,
Mo

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April 17 – “WHEN THE FLOODWATER COMES ITS GONNA LOOK LIKE MUD”

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Zeren Badar
Subject line from “Twin-Sized Mattress” by the Front Bottoms

Here we are, another Monday another fight to move forward.
We’re in lives of constant change, and aside from the big obvious ones – moving to college, getting a new job, having a kid – we often can’t tell what is changing in our lives until it is already changed. The floodwaters wash over us, taking things with them, and we can’t tell what’s gone until everything is dry again.
Which is, you know, kind of terrifying.
Not knowing what you are losing until it’s gone. Every day. Forever.
So appreciate all the things that you have today.

IT’S THE SMALL THINGS

AND ALSO THE BIG THINGS

I appreciate all of you, lovelies,
Mo

PS – Last week I linked to an artist turning music into beautiful abstract paintings, and continuing that theme, here is a video interviewing Amber Galloway Gallego, who uses sign language to perform music at concerts.

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April 10 – LOST DAYS

“Bon Iver, “For Emma Forever Ago” ” by Melissa McCracken, interviewed below
A Light Breakfast
Lunchtime Reads
A little long, a little hard, these are some reads to remind you what you’re working towards halfway through your day –
  • “It’s not a question of them knowing how to save their lives. It’s a question of them knowing if their lives are worth saving.” This is a lengthy but worthwhile look at how the minute traumas of minority follow you into adulthood.
  • “No one tells you that the most complicated part isn’t moving on, it’s starting over.” The many forms abuse can take, in an essay by Katherine Laidlaw.
  • Serial Killers as a product of consumerism, and how they’ve turned into a capitalist commodity (featuring Sacramento’s famed ‘Vampire Killer’ Richard Chase, alumni of my high school).

Who Said No Politics at Dinner?

Sleep On It

  • “We marry the wrong people because we don’t associate being loved with feeling happy.”
  • “I notice, and I begin to see the outline of the best friend, the girl she shaped herself around, according to. For so many women, the process of becoming requires two. It’s not hard to make out the marks the other one left.”

Goodnight, lovelies,
Mo

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Week Links

Week Links

READING

“It’s okay to be scared of the monsters, but it’s not okay to let them in, and it’s not okay to become one.” – Criminal Minds

Ann Friedman’s interesting discussion on friendship and learning how to ask for what you want in platonic relationships.

“Even cool chicks are still women. And there’s no easy way to be a woman, because, as you may have noticed, there’s no acceptable way to be a woman. And if there’s no acceptable way to be the thing you are, then maybe you drink a little. Or a lot.” – Kristi Coulter

“She’s a woman. She probably learned to read between the lines before she could read the lines themselves.” – Kristi Coulter, again. Seriously. Read this.

Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s story about having a million babies and enough love for all of them, “Mother Miri Full of Grace”

Amy Rose Spiegel’s interview with The Rumpus about her new book – Action: A Book About Sex

Finding the people who are comfortable in the same way as you, and learning to let go of them until you’re older – a 13 year old’s fashion week experience.

“We had known each other in the dark nonspace, nontime of the uterus; we had met each other before there was anyone there to meet.” (Zan Romanoff)

Sandra Cisneros on moving into her first apartment and the importance of alone.

Bringing down fertility rates to save the world.